Steve Jobs and Barack Obama are a contrast in two types of man.
Happiness comes from achieving your values: pursuing a career you love, a romantic relationship, perhaps raising a family, or running a successful business.
The best way for human beings to survive and flourish is not to be givers or takers but traders.
When you love someone in a rational, genuine way, you love that person as an individual. You sincerely want him or her to be happy, and you want to add to their life while, at the same time, experiencing your own enjoyment of that person.