In the healthiest meaning of love and sex, both involve “compromise,” but not of the kind inherent in any moral code of sacrifice or selflessness.
Sacrifice indicates that you are being dishonest with yourself and with your partner. For example, if a wife tells her husband: “Yes honey, I’ll do whatever you feel like doing today — it doesn’t really matter to me.” The word “really” is often a tip-off of self-dishonesty. In this case, the woman may indeed have a strong preference, but she is refusing to be assertive and state her preferences for the day’s activities. Such dishonesty breeds resentment. In another example, a woman tells her partner that it’s fine for him to choose a particular career even though it means that she shifts her career goals. She is very unhappy with this choice, but she doesn’t say so — she is sacrificing. At some point, her built up resentment will break through the floodgates. Her husband, feeling that everything is fine will someday hear her scream: “After all I sacrificed for you
